The quote is by John Milton actually ^_^
Legal_My_Deagle wrote:But anyway I still don't know if I will ever go to church. I would have to find one where the priests/pastors/speakers/whatever really inspired me or otherwise impressed me, but especially as an aspiring philosopher it really is difficult to listen to much of the stuff they talk about at church, since it is usually so ridden with fallacy. BUT, I really haven't been to that many different kinds of churches, I haven't really shopped around so to speak. I have only ever been to like a Lutheran, Methodist, and another protestant church where I can't remember the name of the denomination. So I am probably just making too much of a hasty generalization. Like I said, most things I have heard about the Catholic church are at least coherent views you could at least defend with reason (even if I don't always ultimately agree with them I respect them) and I have no reason to think that there aren't any other churches that I could respect similarly. They probably just aren't common.
Church is not for everyone, I would say. If you're like me though, there are times when you just feel a little bit stressed out by everything, and shit generally seems pretty tough. It helps to get up early on a weekend day (instead of pissing it all away by sleeping super late like I usually do), going to church, and picking up some breakfast on the way home (like a really good breakfast with a stack of pancakes and eggs and bacon, way better than no breakfast or a handful of golden grahams). You go for the lesson of the day. The ceremony and hymns and stuff are just to help get you in the mood, sorta, to hear some good words and help you feel inspired. It's important to have a nice church to go to, also, with a loyal congregation.
It just helps. Even if the lesson doesn't really have anything to do with what's troubling you, its nice to hear something supportive rather than the kind of negative bullshit you get every time you turn on the TV. And if you really really need someone to talk to, then you can ask one of the priests or whatever for a time when he or she might be able to talk. You meet them, get to know them a bit, and before long it's pretty easy to feel comfortable talking about your problem. They can give you good advice with a totally objective point of view. I've never needed to do that yet, thank God, but I would if I was in a crisis.
I agree with you that you probably won't get much out of it if you're examining everything they say with a fine tooth comb for unsupported statements or technical flaws. Sometimes I end up feeling that way. And yeah, sometimes you get a guy who totally sucks. In fact the head priest at my church usually forgets what he's talking about halfway through and bullshits the rest. It sucks when he's the guy doing the lesson, but everyone else is good. Once you start feeling like you can trust them, it's easy to see the meaning in what they're talking about, and its easy to take from it what you need. I'm not trying to describe some kind of creepy groupthink bullshit here, but.. you're not going to a biology professor's lecture. It's like you're going to group therapy. And you wouldn't get much out of therapy if you challenged every single thing the therapist said before you gave yourself a chance to think about it, would you?
The other thing is usually the church crowds are way too uptight, I don't really fit in at all. I have no fuckin clue what I would do if I had kids, because I would want to find a compromise between raising them aware of God and the church and whatnot, but I don't really want to like force them to believe anything...and from my experience a lot of people's faith is destroyed because one day they realize the specific interpretation of Christianity they have heard about their whole lives from a church is hugely flawed, and don't realize that there is any other alternative so they drop the belief in God all together. Like, they feel like they have to believe in a God that is a bastard or no God at all. So they either start hating God or lose faith all together because the church offers no awareness of alternate interpretations. Can't say I blame them either.
You could definitely call church crowds uptight, but there's a reason for that. They're all there because they're getting something spiritual out of the experience, and so they take it seriously. They feel inspired to treat each other with respect and kindness, so that they will get the same thing in return.
If you came with all your friends wearing punky clothes and sat in the middle of the chapel, yeah, you'll probably see the old white grandmothers getting nervous at first. But if you show the same respect and openness and kindness to other people, you'll get the same, guaranteed, regardless of what you look like or how you dress or anything like that. Everyone at church loves stories about people from totally different walks of life who come to join the congregation. It gets pretty stifling when you only have middle aged, middle class white people who go.
The best thing to do regarding both kids and yourself is to not try to force them or yourself to believe anything. Just make the information available, and let them decide if they're into it or not. Thats what my parents always did for me. You won't suddenly have your faith destroyed when you and you alone are the one who's been building it your whole life. And when your spiritual journey begins with looking for strength during a time of weakness, rather than just having someone say "say these things and do these things" then there isn't really even a possibility of losing faith.. because it's a part of you, not something you just 'picked up'. I think the first time I ever even picked up a bible was when I was crying and pissed off at something or other.. teenage angst maybe or even earlier than that, and I couldn't/didn't want to go to my parents about it. It just helped me make sense of things, and I was feeling much better before long. And honestly that's all that it's all about.
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Well knows he who uses to consider, that our faith and knowledge thrives by exercise, as well as our limbs and complexion. Truth is compared in Scripture to a streaming fountain; if her waters flow not in a perpetual progression, they sicken into a muddy pool of conformity and tradition. A man may be a heretic in the truth; and if he believe things only because his pastor says so, or the Assembly so determines, without knowing other reason, though his belief be true, yet the very truth he holds becomes his heresy.